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Don’t Be Afraid of Your Fears



“Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” ― C. Joy Bell C.

The above quote resonated with me because fear has a way of choke holding people and literally stopping them in their tracks. Fear will make you believe the lies that you tell yourself about what you can and can't do. I remember I wanted to move to Virginia and I had all of these excuses like I have to pay my bills first and I needed to do this and that. It was my fear rationalizing the situation to a point where I was siding with my fear against myself. I never moved to Virginia. However when it came to moving to Maryland, I still had doubt, but I walked in it and came through.

As I am transitioning into the world of business, there is a lot of fear lingering, due to not knowing where your next paycheck will come from or how you will pay your bills if this product doesn't sell and etc. I have been fortunate enough to attend many conferences for entrepreneurs, and it was amazing just being in a room full of like-minded women and men. We were encouraged to network because we may find our next business partner in the room. What I have seen as I am transitioning is that women in business need support and they need to understand that other women are not their competition, but a means of support. As a speaker and coach, I cannot have the mentality that other coaches or speakers are competing with me because I cannot service everyone alone and there are more than enough people to serve in this world.

As an African American, I am considered to be a double minority. In our culture, we are conditioned to not look toward owning a business, and I would have never thought in a million years that I would be walking into this realm. I would be so proud and honored to show women that anything is possible, especially the adolescents that I work with whom have little hope and belief in themselves. As a former school counselor, my goal is to work with young girls and adolescents to breed the next generation of women and show them that leadership of any kind is possible.

I am not afraid of a challenge! I love meeting people. This will give me the opportunity to take my leadership skills to the next level and connect with more like-minded women. This will also enhance my public speaking skills. I am a life learner, so I am always up to learning anything that will improve my personal character and professional skill set. I also understand how hard it is for some people to network and I would love to bring others together to do so.

I know with my heart of hearts that I have conquered many of my fears. There was a time when I would not wear my hair in a curly Afro. There was a time when I couldn't even fathom opening a business. There was a time when I was afraid to go after my dreams because I needed my current paycheck and health insurance. There was a time when I was worried about what others thought about me. I've had so many fears that I have conquered today, and so many more waiting to be overcome. My only regret is that I took so long to defeat them. Fears are not as bad as you may think until you stand toe to toe with it.

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